Can you tell me with any certainty what is meant by custard?
It’ll be with certainty, but I’m not sure how truly correct it will be. Custard is um, thicker & an amazing pudding but not pudding. Much better than pudding which I hate. It comes in different flavors & gets stuffed into amazing pastries sometimes.
Provided you were given assurances that you would not be harmed by the products of either, would you rather spend time with a terrorist or a manufacturer of breakfast cereal?
Is my old shrink on here?!!! OMG, this is a question from my oddball therapist. Lmfao. This is also, possibly, the best question I’ve received via formspring.
I would rather spend time with the terrorist. It seems like he/she would be more interesting. How would the products of a breakfast cereal manufacturer hurt me? Overly sweet sugar causes me a premature heart attack? Anyway, while I do love breakfast cereal, for some reason, I get the idea that the manufacturer would be boring???
what do you think about married people dating outside the marriage
I think it’s fucking disgustingly disrespectful & wrong. If you’re that unhappy with the person you’re with then get out of the marriage. I mean, if you EVER had love and respect at all for the person you’re with (EVER AT ALL IN YOUR LIFE), you at least owe it to the person that you once loved & cared for to get a divorce if you’re looking elsewhere. I don’t believe in this open marriage bullshit either. I’m sorry, but I wouldn’t want to be with anyone but the man that I cared about. I just think it’s a matter of respect. So, yeah. I get a lot of married men that come on to me, and I always look at them differently after. I just lose respect, and I find it heinous.
Man, lemme tell you about what IS NOT the perfect date because I’ve had quite a few of those, and those stories are quite funny…actually, they’re best told in person.
The perfect date, in my opinion, would be time spent with someone wherein the conversation was incredible. That’s the best, you know? Really good conversation. I don’t really care about the activity per se…I don’t know, I like to know stories about people. What they’re about. What their passions are? What they were like as childen? Laughter is nice. The perfect date has a relaxed vibe with a twist of looking forward to the next, and when when you walk in the house you squeal a bit & call your best lady friends.
Once, some guy gave me the best face ever while I watched Three’s Company. That’s true and it was amazing; isn’t what my question readers want to hear? Like Lil’ Kim says, “Ay yo, yo, come here so I can bust in ya mouth.” Nah, but seriously, we all know I’m really not that easily offended. Lol.
Anyway, okay a PC amazing moment then? The first time I saw Matisse’s Le Bonheur De Vivre.
So many ways I could answer this question, and everytime I try I get overwhelmed with answering it in specifics…so I’ll just say a day with: good conversation, laughter, a healthy dose of a hedonistic pursuits. Oh yeah, and all while wearing an amazing dress! Lol.
We all learn something from our parents so what lessons or wisdom did you learn from your parents that you will pass on to your children someday. Maybe I should ask if you want to have children someday?
I do want children someday. I’d like to have a little family to take care of. Although I am a feminist, I’m very old fashioned in some ways. Lol. I want to be good for a man, and I want him to be good for me & teach me. I want to dote on my little unconventional eccentric family that I’ll have someday. While I love my parents very much, I’m going to give all the credit to my Mother for lessons learned. Mama taught me to always stand up for what I believe in, even if I’m the only one standing. I took it to heart and have no problem being a lone dissenter. She taught me to be proud of who I am, and never to become a mindless sheep that follows the crowd. She taught me huge lessons in love and tolerance, and that humanity all deserve respect and compassion. She taught me to embrace differences & that diversity and what someone else can bring to the table is a good thing. That not everyone should look/think/act/create like everyone else. I can only pray that I’ll be half as good as my Mother was in passing on life lessons to my children someday. The lessons will be the ones listed above. They have served me very well. I am openminded, love big, and enjoy life. I hope my children will enjoy it as much as I do. I will try to encourage them to embrace their curiosities, travel & see the world, & never be afraid to explore fashion. Lol.
The smell of a bookstore, the way men smell…Man, I am perfumista so this could go on awhile. Dior’s Hypnotic Poison is my signature scent; others I like to wear include but are not limited to: Viktor & Rolf’s Flowerbomb, Donna Karan Cashmere Mist, Gucci Rush, Emilio Pucci’s Acqua 330, Orange Blossom oils, Prada, Gaultier’s MaDame, Marc Jacobs, Bvlgari’s Jasmin Noir. Those are a few. My favorite scent on men, besides the wonderful way they already smell naturally, is Versace’s Black Jeans.
I feel like it's really difficult for me to make friends. I think I want them to like me so much that I overcompensate with friendliness. Any advice for me?
Yeah, you should probably attempt to hang back a little on that; Don’t smother people. I run screaming from people that smother me. I think people with self respect become attractive to others. Find the qualities and values that you are proud of/that you like in yourself and focus on those. I know my own worth, and I think that when people know that you respect yourself, they’ll fall in behind. Also, it’s not necessary to have a ton of friends. I have a lot of aquaintances but very few that I truly trust and consider friends. It’s quality not quantity. I’m sure you’re an amazing person, and you have a lot to offer in friendships. First, concentrate on being true to yourself though because at the end of the day, the only person you have to sleep with is yourself.
"So, let’s repeat: interrupting is not polite, nor does it make your point at all valid. If you wouldn’t yell “baby killer!” at your waitress at Applebees, why would you think it acceptable to yell it at a colleague? Let’s treat each other with some respect—afterall, the rest of your peers were elected the same way you were."
What has your academic history been like? Your information says that you've "enjoyed failure as an appetizer before success", and I can't think of a better way to describe my current situation. Some words of advice, please! I'm dropping out of college ):
First, I want to mention that I have a different definition of success than some. Success for me is being incredibly happy with life on a day to day basis, having good friends, a lot of love in my life to give, etc. So, if you’re looking for a climbing the corporate ladder monetary version of success, you’ll need to look to someone else for advice. That said, I think some people need to take a break from school to see what it is that they’re truly passionate about. I wasn’t ready to decide that at 23-25. I didn’t know what I wanted, and I had only went to college because that was what I thought you were supposed to do. Anyway, I took a break, got a job, and quickly figured out what it was that I didn’t want to do. Lol. I just didn’t pressure myself, and I find huge passions that I knew I was interested in pursuing as a career. The next day, I went to reenroll to finish my degree. I would say to you that not everyone is meant to pursue the same path, and some of us, like me, take longer to finish than others. There’s nothing wrong with that if you choose that route. I also will say to you that it is incredibly tough to go back to school while having a full time job. I can only take a couple of classes at a time, so it draws it out a bit more. Anyway, huge best wishes in whatever you decide. Remember, don’t assume that you have to do everything the same way as others.
Someone recently asked me, “What do you believe in? I mean your religion?”
First, I’m not religious. I don’t believe in organized religion, and I’ve been to pretty much every kind of church out there. I am a Christian, and while it may seem irreconcilable to some, I discovered God through science & nature.
I don’t seek out organized religion because I find it to be a tasteless mess of kittens & overly syrupy sickening hypocrisy. Some proponents of this sort of worship will say, “Yes, but no one ever said we were perfect, and didn’t sin,“ however, when you sit IN THE CHURCH IN THE PEW and gossip about a teenage mother pregnant out of wedlock in the congregation, you make me want to claw your fucking face off and shove the apple down your throat, a la an unrepentant Eve. What do you know of anyone else’s struggle? How dare you. Once a Baptist Father/pastor/preacher/minister/brother (listen, I went to Catholic school so I refer to everyone as Father, but whatever you call yourself, fine), came knocking on my door, and I let him in the apartment. I have a framed picture of a pin-up girl in my living room, half naked sprawled across a bearskin rug; Father eyed it and began to sweat. He asked me to visit his church the following Sunday. He read passages from the Bible to me. He said, “Please come for fellowship.” “I have a question first,” I said, “what would happen if I brought someone gay to your church. How would they be treated? Would you accept them in your church?” He was a fairly young priest/pastor/preacher/minister/brother, and his hands immediately began to tremble. A simple question, I thought. “Well, eh. Um. I mean, that’s an abomination, and we’re not going to pretend that we agree with…um, uh. We don’t agree with that sort of…It is wrong, and we‘re not inviting that in…” “Thanks for coming. That answers my question. You don’t get It,” and I shook my head and walked him to the door. We left each other, both feeling sorry & believing the other to be lost.
My faith is more private, and I don’t need some WWJD bracelet, a badge of gaudy to represent it.
Mostly I believe in love, abstaining from judgment, creativity & the arts, God making his presence known in the every day & personal, and not taking the gift of life for granted. I find a lot of strength in trying to remember this quote by Frank Warren every day during every moment (it’s become my mantra of sorts this year, you could say…a reminder to have patience to myself),
"Every single person has at least one secret that would break your heart. If we could just remember this, I think there would be a lot more compassion and tolerance in the world.”
By focusing on finding happiness in small daily things. It works. I dunno, I’m happy when having good conversation, when writing out my thoughts, when baking in the kitchen, when my huge laugh is crashing into every nook & cranny, when my cat naps in my lap, when reading a good book, etc. I’m a very easy person to please, and I think life is a huge gift, and it’s incredibly boring and selfish to waste it by pissing & moaning. I also am a bit of a hedonist, and believe in the pursuit of pleasure as my strongest belief so I tend to find a lot of enjoyment & happiness out of things like a 5 hour nap, midday, a decadent bubblebath, and other things that can be a bit over the top but make me entirely happy. Typed like a true Virgo, it’s all in the details.
What would you tell a girl that feels like she is too shy - beyond repair, even. Do you have any insights?
I was incredibly horribly shy until about three years ago (which no one now believes since I’m very outgoing at this point in my life) . I did go on meds for issues with generalized anxiety, but that wasn’t what really made a difference for me…just took the edge off like a cocktail. Lol. I think it was just age. I realized nothing is that big of a deal. Everyone’s a weirdo. So many things that would make me get sooo shy/embarrassed just in hindsight were relatively small. The things that are important like family, friends, and passions are things worthy of shaking you. Day to day people/bullshit, not soo much. It’s a hard struggle, and I know it better than anyone. If you can’t change it, I recommend loving yourself anyway (“flaws” & all). I love the hell out of shy people, perhaps because I know that struggle, and even when I was really shy, there were always people that loved me. Don’t beat up on yourself. You don’t need repair.
Do you find that people treat you differently since you've lost weight?
They definitely do. At first, it was strange to get approached by men so much more. Mama swears I have Cinderella syndrome though (like with guys & steroids) because I still think I could stand to lose a bit more.
There was someone that you supposed to meet last Sunday and have a coffee with, but he couldn't make it! are you angry with him/her? how do you feel about that person???
No, I’m not angry with him, and I think he’s an exceptional individual still. Life happens. People get busy. I thought he and I were supposed to have coffee later in the week though? Suffice to say, I’m not put off, and I still would enjoy his company.
“Each second we live is a new and unique moment of the universe, a moment that will never be again. And what do we teach our children? We teach them that two and two make four, and that Paris is the capital of France. When will we also teach them what they are? We should say to each of them: Do you know what you are? You are a marvel. You are unique. In all the years that have passed, there has never been another child like you. Your legs, your arms, your clever fingers, the way you move. You may become a Shakespeare, a Michelangelo, a Beethoven. You have the capacity for anything. Yes, you are a marvel. And when you grow up, can you then harm another who is, like you, a marvel? You must work, we must all work, to make the world worthy of its children.”—Pablo Picasso (via elicec)
What TV show do you wish would go off the air for good?
Truthfully, I don’t watch a lot of television. It rots the brain, and so I clearly think quite a bit of it should go off the air for good. I find Nancy Grace to be particularly repulsive, and she interrupts my news so that’s who I’ll say.